...success depends heavily on how we approach our interactions with other people. Every time we interact with another person at work, we have a choice to make: do we try to claim as much value as we can, or contribute value without worrying about what we receive in return?...
...Expressing gratitude regularly not only changes our thoughts and emotions but also strengthens our relationships and improves our health. Gratitude helps us live better and longer!...
...The startling conclusion at which they had all arrived, in different ways, was this: that the effort to try to feel happy is often precisely the thing that makes us miserable. And that it is our constant efforts to eliminate the negative – insecurity, uncertainty, failure, or sadness – that is what causes us to feel so insecure, anxious, uncertain, or unhappy...
...Problems are inevitable, because our knowledge will always be infinitely far from complete. Some problems are hard, but it is a mistake to confuse hard problems with problems unlikely to be solved...
...Getting to great starts by cutting out stuff that’s merely good...
...Chatter consists of the cyclical negative thoughts and emotions that turn our singular capacity for introspection into a curse rather than a blessing. It puts our performance, decision making, relationships, happiness, and health in jeopardy. We think about that screwup at work or misunderstanding with a loved one and end up flooded by how bad we feel. Then we think about it again. And again. We introspect hoping to tap into our inner coach but find our inner critic instead...
...Tribal Leadership focuses on two things, and only two things: the words people use and the types of relationships they form. You can move forward only by bringing others with you...
...That one square in the waffle that’s the most loaded with butter and syrup...
...The lesson of leverage is this: Assume that the worst imaginable outcome will occur and ask whether you can tolerate it. If the answer is no, then reduce your borrowing...
...From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us—it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one...
...You’ll need to file taxes in both countries, even if you’ll almost certainly only owe taxes in one...
...When we have the ability to save more, we should save more—and when we don’t, we should save less. We shouldn’t use static, unchanging rules because our finances are rarely static and unchanging...
...Here’s what I was learning: secrets are poison. They suck the life out of you, they steal your ability to live in the present, they build walls between you and the people you love...
...further research has suggested that after people have gained power, they tend to behave like patients with damage to the brain’s orbitofrontal lobes. That is, the experience of wealth and power is akin to removing the part of the brain “critical to empathy and socially appropriate behavior.”...
...Like her idol Steve Jobs, she emitted a reality distortion field that forced people to momentarily suspend disbelief...
...When it comes to building great habits and ditching lazy ones, your commitment to staying focused on who you’re becoming regardless of where you are/who you are right now is the mightiest power you’ve got...
...Those who study positive psychology used to think that happy people were ones who were not under stress. They have since discovered that happiness is not correlated with a lack of stress or a perfect environment. It is correlated to the amount of accountability you accept in your life...
...Many did not succeed the first, second, or even third time they tried for a big goal. But they kept at it, they kept pushing....
...When your story is not clear, when it’s fragmented or overly complex, the audience has to work hard to make sense of it. Eventually, this hard work begins to produce first resistance, then irritation, and then loss of confidence...
...[Ed. note - Ok, this was an audio book in a long car ride with family]...
