...Speaking is more than just words. Your movements and physical location reinforce the message you’re delivering, or undermine it if you don’t do it right. When you do stand still—as you will from time to time—it creates high drama, and focuses everyone’s attention on what you are saying. And when you move, the energy moves with you...
...These methods have helped me enormously—and can save you much heartache and anxiety...
...Neuroscientists are now finding evidence for what the Daoists have known for millennia: that in any given moment, the mind is engaged in a tug-of-war along two fronts...
...Your hectic job, difficult marriage, rebellious children and dwindling bank account? They're probably not raising your blood pressure in a medically meaningful way, according to the latest research...
...Here are 100 practical tips to help you in your daily life...
...This is a story about pizza and geometry. Get the pizza that you paid for...
..."Even though everyone tells you that parenting is going to be harder than you imagine, two thirds of moms still think it’s even harder"...
...But a new paper, published in the American Psychological Association’s Psychological Review, suggests there’s a another way to live a good life. It isn’t focused on happiness or purpose, but rather it’s a life that’s “psychologically rich"...
...We all know exercise is important, but is it better to do a little every day, or a lot a few times a week?...
...The researchers theorize that putting a leisure-time activity down on your calendar diminishes its fun because scheduling adds structure, structure is associated with work, and work is associated with things that are obligatory, effortful, and constraining...
...Prioritize feedback from people with taste, skill and influence, not proximity or volume...
...Everyone’s just kind of rusty. Our social graces have atrophied...
...You can’t avoid all the fees our capitalist masters throw at us, but there are plenty of stupid fees you can avoid—and should never pay...
...In this piece, the author outlines when it’s best to say no to taking on more work: 1) When your primary job responsibilities will suffer. 2) When it’s someone else’s work. 3) When there’s no clear exit strategy. 4) When the ask is unreasonable...
...When it comes to pursuing goals, you can learn to notice when you’re grinding, and instead of leaning harder on the accelerator you can opt to disengage the parking brake. The feeling is incredible: suddenly you can go faster, turn more easily, and set your sights on more distant destinations without worrying whether you’ll make it...
...Among life’s many chapters and milestones, Americans have come to see some events — like college, marriage, homeownership, child-rearing, and career success — as achievements they must fulfill in order to maintain the status quo. Because so many follow these “traditional” paths, both in real life and in Western popular culture, we learn from a young age to model and emulate these behaviors. Family and cultural traditions can dictate what is expected of us throughout life, particularly among women, which can elicit anxiety when those benchmarks aren’t reached...
...The focus and energy we lavish on events can easily distract us from the journeys we care about...
...So what’s key problem that nobody talks about? Your brain. Why the brain? Because that’s where the bad decisions come from. Some will yell it’s their genetics but the obesity epidemic didn’t start until 1978 and genetics don’t change that fast. Yes, genes are an issue but they only load the gun – behavior pulls the trigger. And wanna guess what part of the body those obesity genes affect?...
...On any particular issue, people at the bottom can usually claim the most expertise; they know their job best. And when someone at the top has to make a difficult decision, they usually prefer to justify it via reference to recommendations from below. They are just following the advice of their experts, they say. But of course they lie; people at the top often overrule subordinates. And while leaders often like to pretend that they select people for promotion on the basis of doing lower jobs well, that is also often a lie....
...We default to time and ordinal ordering when we don’t bother to imagine a taxonomy that produces a useful grid. If you want to know what’s missing, spend some time on structuring a useful grid first...
