...This new definition of success might mean not taking the promotion that offers a better title and salary; not buying an expensive car because your neighbors have one; not going on the fancy (but probably stressful) vacation because it’s what you’re supposed to do. Success is about stepping back and asking yourself What do I really want? And then doing what you can to align your actions—the unfolding process of your life—with how you answer. It is in this way that you own success, and not just figuratively, but literally, too. It is how you make success yours...

...Insisting on a bigger interruption is lazy. It’s lazy because if you really cared about solving the problem, you’d change the situation, not yell about it. If you get the design right, you can whisper instead...

...Just because we call for barley doesn't mean you can't try this made with quinoa, farro or other grains...

...if we want to get an accurate view of reality, it is important we consider how observing it may distort the results...

...You get so used to doing what you do, you don’t see what it is anymore...

...As you think about where you are and where you want to be, you can quiet the “what ifs” that come with uncertainty by keeping a few key principles in mind...

...We like to think we make complicated decisions based on rational analysis, but most of the time, we actually make an emotional decision and then invent a rational analysis to justify it...

...Forgiveness, of others and one’s self, can be a powerful, life-altering process. It can change the trajectory of a relationship or even one’s life. It is not the only response one can make to being hurt or hurting others, but it is an effective way to manage the inevitable moments of conflict, disappointment, and pain in our lives...

[Ed. note - bad language ahead]...it’s only rational to delay gratification if and only if you believe you will receive that long-term reward. When you’re unsure of getting the results you’re holding out for, it can be rational to not wait and instead indulge. In these cases, immediate gratification isn’t so much a failure of willpower, it can also be a calculated choice...

...Make sure it is very cold and it activates the pudding and thickens...

...Doubling down on wrong always makes things worse...

...We judge our days based on how efficient they are, not how fulfilling...

...When introducing two people who don’t know each other, ask each of them to opt-in to the introduction before making it...

...If you don’t take charge of your learning, no one else will...

...Persistent overthinking in the form of worry and rumination can result in a wide range of symptoms such as insomnia, trouble concentrating and loss of energy which, in turn, often lead to further worries regarding one’s symptoms, thereby creating a vicious cycle of overthinking...

...If it’s truly about what we produce, how many people on the team are aware of how much they produce? What would happen if they were...

...If desired, garnish with lime slices and additional zest...

[Ed. note - bad language ahead]...Unethical assholes are assholes because they care about themselves more than others. They are narcissistic and see the world only in terms of what benefits themselves. Obviously, that’s bad. They are unethical because their cause is bad. Finding a good cause beyond one’s own interests is the first step to becoming an ethical asshole...

...I can disagree with your opinion, it turns out, but I can’t disagree with your experience. And once I have a sense of your experience, you and I are in relationship, acknowledging the complexity in each other’s position, listening less guardedly. The difference in our opinions will probably remain intact, but it no longer defines what is possible between us...

...Remember, no matter how fancy a con artist’s tricks or disguises may be, they ALL rely on the same tactics...