Subtract
...Life can be improved by adding, or by subtracting. The world pushes us to add, because that benefits them. But the secret is to focus on subtracting...
...Life can be improved by adding, or by subtracting. The world pushes us to add, because that benefits them. But the secret is to focus on subtracting...
...It’s an important question, one that helps you understand if you have standards and a vision in mind...
...We found there was a large effect, people's preferences shifted dramatically from the long to short term when hungry...
...most of what children learn isn’t taught explicitly. It’s much easier to raise a better child after you’ve put in the time to be a better you...
...People who have chosen to be high performers. Doctors, athletes, programmers and leaders who choose to make a ruckus understand that continuous learning is at the heart of what they’ll need to do...
...When we consume information that doesn’t expire or expires slowly; is very detailed; and we spend time thinking about it not passing the buck, we can match patterns. This is how you learn to see what other people are missing. The longer you do this, the more advantage you get...
...A brief reminder that those thoughts in your head aren’t always accurate and don’t have to be obeyed can affect us powerfully. It changes our relationship with the Inner Critic. We can more easily ignore it and do what we set out to do — even when it hurts...
...Evaluate opportunities, not based on whether they are “right” or “perfect” for your long-term goals but based on whether you’ll gain something now that will be useful later. Specifically, think about three criteria: will the job you’re considering offer experience, credibility, or income?...
...We are happy to take a tiny slice off the thing that’s being shared, but we hesitate to open the bag...
...Remember: building resilience starts with setting aside these cognitive breaks and letting your batteries fully recharge...
...Emotion-coaching is not a panacea. It doesn’t have Harry Potter magic powers to turn your little devil into a little angel. There will still be outbursts. You’ll still need discipline and limits. But with time it’ll build a tighter bond with your child and help them develop a skill that will benefit them the rest of their life...
...Each of our paths to stillness will be unique, but the outcome will be the same: quiet, strength, insight, peace, happiness. Most of all, we will be surprised to learn that the stillness we sought is not found outside us but within us. It’s been ours all along...
...We can’t be productive without breaks. But far too many of us can’t seem to get away from our desks, even for just a few minutes...
...Ideally, we’d be omniscient and clearheaded. In reality, we make decisions in imperfect conditions that prevent us from thinking things through...
...Your kids may have very different expectations and ideas about how your lives will merge...
...Inefficient does not mean ineffective, and it is certainly not the same as lazy. You get things done – just not in the most effective way possible. You’re a bit sloppy, and use more energy. But don’t feel bad about it. There is real value in not being the best...
...The conditions you think you want are rarely the ones that help you produce your best work...
...Starting early shows you how much you own and hints at how much is ahead...
...We are not taught how to learn in school, we are taught how to pass tests. The spacing effect is a far more effective way to learn and retain information that works with our brain instead of against it...
...What we found was two-fold: Not only did participants choose differently when it was for themselves rather than for someone else, but the way they chose was different...