...Developing a practice of pausing to regulate, resource, and reorient before we respond can counteract the threat response and help us to be more curious and creative in the face of what now? moments, even when we’re not sure what comes next...
...That’s what makes adult behavioral change so hard. If you want to be a better partner at home or a better manager at work, you not only have to change your ways, you have to get some buy-in from your partner or co-workers. Everyone around you has to recognize that you’re changing. Relying on other people increases the degree of difficulty exponentially...
...To control the game, one tries to control as much of the board as possible. At the outset, using your pieces to seize the middle of the playing field is a great strategy, because it gives you the widest possible vantage point from which to control the movement of the other pieces...
...You can slip a piece of good chocolate inside each ball if you want. You can bake shorter or longer–depends on how soft you want them...
...it’s about surrounding yourself with a carefully curated group of people who you admire and respect and with whom you share common beliefs and values — people who will set the tone for the foundation of your larger network filled with people who provide value to one another...
...So it isn’t work or activity that Tom opposes, just the intensity and unrelenting tempo of many modern working lives...
...We overestimate the likelihood of unlikely events. And we underestimate the likelihood of likely events...
...top tips to stand out from the crowd and get a phone call, or offer, that much faster...
...when you focus on what you do best, on what brings you the most satisfaction, there is plenty of space for everything...
...So instead of becoming attached to the outcome, you can simply focus on the work...
...Eat right away...
...The biggest — and perhaps highest stakes — reason we resist change is that it puts at risk our identities and self-views...
...The Sweet Spot of Surprise: Like choosing a good book, curiosity leads us toward information that’s new, but not so new that it’s indecipherable...
...We’re all a little biased. When it comes to our finances, we’ve found that they can do real harm...
...Adding a reservoir to a high-demand system creates slack, resilience and efficiency...
...People who have had to endure hardships have a chip on their shoulder and thus a need to prove themselves, and he has found this to be correlated with success...
...If you want to make progress in any area, you need to be willing to give up your best ideas from time to time...
...They’re not sweet. They’re a bit chocolately. They’re vaguely savory, except that they’re a brownie...
...The process of learning a new skill or starting a new company or taking on a new adventure of any sort will often appear to be an ineffective use of time at first. Compared to the other things you already know how to do, the new thing will seem like a waste of time. It will never win the 80/20 analysis...But that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong decision...
...it’s essential for managers to establish norms around digital communication with their teams...
