...We focus on the frustration of losing an ‘and’ when we get nervous about the decisions we’re asked to make, when we are hesitant about commitment. And we obsess over the constraints we’ve already accepted because it slows us down and amplifies our fears...
...The simplest formula or recipe I can think of is: Shut up, Listen, Repeat...However, this is easier said than done...
...Employees harboring such thoughts often excel at teamwork, cooperation, and socializing...
...While you can’t realistically avoid all hotel fees if you choose to stay at said hotel, you are entitled to know what you’ll end up paying—with no surprises...
...When it comes to information processing, think of the wake state principally as reception (experiencing and constantly learning the world around you), NREM sleep as reflection (storing and strengthening those raw ingredients of new facts and skills), and REM sleep as integration (interconnecting these raw ingredients with each other, with all past experiences, and, in doing so, building an ever more accurate model of how the world works, including innovative insights and problem-solving abilities)...
...The other understands how the recipe works, sees patterns and opportunities and changes the recipe to fit the problem to be solved. It’s about metaphor in addition to process...
...After five to six long hours, I’ll have melting pork that is jam-packed with BBQ flavor...
...the longer you wait, the more likely you are to ghost...
...You should clean your coffee maker at least every three months, but there are things to be aware of...
...Here's how to decide which meetings can be async threads (and which can't)...
...if you decide you have enough, then you do. And with that choice comes a remarkable sort of freedom...
...It’s a sign of maturity to be able to hold on to two conflicting desires or two opposing ideas at the same time without immediately rejecting one or the other, before there has been time for a careful discernment. To live with desire is to live with tension...
...Be persistent...Be patient...Be grateful...Smile...
...A good char siu recipe has depth of flavor––a salty/sweet contrast with a hint of spice that compliments the pork and allows it to stand alone with just a simple mound of steamed rice and blanched choy sum...
...Reid employs several decision making hacks to prioritize speed as a factor for which option is best — and to speed up the process of making the decision itself...
...But research also shows that by taking steps to make sure our social compromises are our own choices — not based on the way technology makes us feel — we can employ the best time hack of all. It’s called social economizing, and it means we make active decisions about how we spend our time, and we then save and invest our time where we want...
...A well-lived life without calibration is unlikely...
...If you ever find yourself stressed, overwhelmed, sinking into stasis despite wanting to change, or frustrated when you can’t respond to new opportunities, you need more slack in your life...
...As we’ve seen, the passing of time is judged in two ways – prospectively, as it happens, and afterwards, retrospectively. When you judge time prospectively it is easy to see that, as I’ve been discussing, attention and emotion both play a part; but when you look retrospectively and try to guess how long an event took, it is a third factor that shapes your answer – memory...
...A body in motion tends to stay in motion. Create systems that spark initial movement. Engineer small wins (they become big wins over time)...
