...By shifting my focus from “me” to “we”, I won’t take it so personally. If I try to see the intention of the other person, I make space for understanding rather than irritation...
...more of too many things is too much...
...Similarly, you can appreciate your life’s journey even when it’s uncomfortable, but it’s unrealistic to expect that you will always enjoy it...
...A better approach is to reduce the number of tasks we take on in the first place, institute concrete principles for deciding what categories of things you won’t do, and create structures such as instituting a day when no meetings will be held...
...Serve with crushed amaretti cookies sprinkled on top...
...What we really need is a way of deciding the point at which attention stops being beneficial for knowledge, and strays over into distorting things...
...We all face decisions every day that involve balancing risk. The Precautionary Principle is a tool that helps us determine when a particular choice is worth taking a gamble on, or when we need to sit tight and collect more information...
...Setting the triggers for action is best done in advance, and maintained regularly. Waiting for a crisis is expensive and risky...
...Developing a practice of pausing to regulate, resource, and reorient before we respond can counteract the threat response and help us to be more curious and creative in the face of what now? moments, even when we’re not sure what comes next...
...That’s what makes adult behavioral change so hard. If you want to be a better partner at home or a better manager at work, you not only have to change your ways, you have to get some buy-in from your partner or co-workers. Everyone around you has to recognize that you’re changing. Relying on other people increases the degree of difficulty exponentially...
...To control the game, one tries to control as much of the board as possible. At the outset, using your pieces to seize the middle of the playing field is a great strategy, because it gives you the widest possible vantage point from which to control the movement of the other pieces...
...You can slip a piece of good chocolate inside each ball if you want. You can bake shorter or longer–depends on how soft you want them...
...it’s about surrounding yourself with a carefully curated group of people who you admire and respect and with whom you share common beliefs and values — people who will set the tone for the foundation of your larger network filled with people who provide value to one another...
...So it isn’t work or activity that Tom opposes, just the intensity and unrelenting tempo of many modern working lives...
...We overestimate the likelihood of unlikely events. And we underestimate the likelihood of likely events...
...top tips to stand out from the crowd and get a phone call, or offer, that much faster...
...when you focus on what you do best, on what brings you the most satisfaction, there is plenty of space for everything...
...So instead of becoming attached to the outcome, you can simply focus on the work...
...Eat right away...
...The biggest — and perhaps highest stakes — reason we resist change is that it puts at risk our identities and self-views...
